What They Did, Not Who They Are
I donâ€™t want a mealy-mouthed, fangless discourse where nothing worth critiquing â€“ person or otherwise â€“ can be discussed without fear of the chilling effect of â€œoffense.â€ Rather, what I want is for people to take into account the messiness of real life. I want people to have what Jay Smooth called the â€œwhat they didâ€ conversation rather than the â€œwhat they areâ€ conversation.
Instead of hearing about how someone who has misstepped can now be sorted into This Box or That Label, I want to know what they did that was a problem. I want to be given a chance to draw my own conclusions and â€“ the most vital part â€“ I want to feel like I can come to a different conclusion than the consensus without being instantly shifted into the same box merely for not agreeing on what belongs in the box in the first place.
â€” Please Stop
This is an important essay about the way we interact on social media. I need to take some of these lessons to heart.